This treatment also needs to be accessible and affordable, however. Walker says he finds himself tormented by his own urge to connect. And for all the shit I need to do, like start exercising and actively improving my attitude, I still need people.
Sign In Create Account. Illustration by Michelle Thompson. The Psychology Behind Stalking. But people who engage in stalking actually vary far more widely that you'd expect. December 13, , pm. Dominique Sisley. Andreea Cristina Bolbea. Suzannah Riggs. Sirin Kale. What does therapy for a stalker look like?
Nana Baah. In reality, stalking can take a wide range of forms, but generally involves a person repeatedly contacting, harassing or spying on you or showing you unwanted attention that causes fear or distress.
It can be in person and it can be online. It's also possible for someone to stalk you without you knowing about it at all. Following you; loitering outside your home, workplace or public venues; interfering with your property; and making threats to harm or actually harming you or your loved ones can all be forms of stalking. With social media, spyware and other technologies on the rise, Ms Kun says "we're now seeing a lot of cyber-stalking". Cyber-stalking also known as technology-assisted stalking can include trolling or observing your social media accounts; hacking into your computer; installing tracking apps or devices; accessing your phone to view personal information; unwanted calls, texts or messages; sharing or threatening to share photos, videos or personal information; or impersonating your online identity.
If you think you're being stalked, knowing where to turn for help can feel confusing and overwhelming. Here's where to start. Stalking is a crime in all Australian states and territories, and all the experts we spoke to said it's always best not to assume the stalking will go away. Ms Kun says it's always worth taking stalking "very seriously", particularly if the person has a history of violence.
Stalking is often difficult to detect or keep records of — "so it is really important to try to collect evidence, even if that is diarising what you've seen," says Ms Kun.
It's a good idea to save letters or gifts from the stalker; keep screenshots of texts or online abuse; take photos of graffiti, flowers or destroyed property in the position you found it; and keep all evidence in a safe place such as on a USB at a friend's house , the eSafety Commissioner recommends. And whenever an incident relating to the stalking takes place, be sure to write down what happened , where, the date and time, and the name of any witnesses.
It's best to report the stalking to police immediately — ideally no more than two weeks after the stalking begins. If you are stalked for more than two weeks, chances are your stalker will persist for six to 12 months, according to WIRE. Tell the police what's been happening, show them the evidence you've collected, and ask them what you can do to improve your safety.
Free, confidential home security checks can also be arranged through most police stations. Your state or territory's Victims of Crime service is another good resource to reach out to. When calling one of these resources, it's best to use a public phone or a friend's mobile to call in case your phone is being tracked or overheard. There's an emotional reaction, people can feel very fearful, have a lot of anxiety, feel powerlessness and then they can feel guilt and shame for feeling powerlessness," says Ms Kun.
WIRE recommends giving your stalker a single clear message that you don't want any of their attention or contact. Change your passwords. If the stalker used to be a close friend or partner, they might know the password or two to your phone, laptop, email, social media, etc. Change these passwords immediately, and make them very hard to guess.
Contact local law enforcement. Or, call them on the phone and ask to speak with an officer about your situation. The police will give you a number of options as to what to do. Having documented evidence of the stalking will help you receive a protection order if you and your parents decide to go that route. Call If the stalker is threatening to harm you — in person or online — then you need to get help as soon as possible.
Tell your parents or another trusted adult and ask them to help you get immediate assistance. You Are Not Alone. However, keep in mind that more than 7 million people are stalked per year in the United States, according to data from the CDC. Being stalked is traumatic. You may start staying away from places, people, or activities that are associated with the stalker. This is called avoidance, and is a symptom of trauma.
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